Hate is all consuming. It turns you to the dark side, turns you into Darth Vader. It is true. Yet if you feel wronged, the seeds of hate are sown. You are not ready to forgive. You still feel the sting of pain. What then? Will the seeds of hate grow within you? Yes, they may sprout, even in the strongest among us. What to do? Time to work. Weed them out, one by one. It takes effort. You have to be strong. You have to rise above. Rise above your fears. Rise above those who may have wronged you.
Consider, have you really been wronged? Did you allow yourself to be wronged through personal weakness? Is Darth Vader really a good role model? Does the Jedi Order ask more of you? Does KIC 8462852 really hold alien technology?
I don’t believe in vigilantism. ‘Don’t get mad. Get even.’ It is not my way. I would rather gently tend my garden. Sitting quietly, pulling the hate sprouts one by one. In time, it will get better. Fertilize the soil under the plants you wish to thrive (joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration, awe, love), maybe put in a drip system and add an automated water system for your dog. Your dog loves you unconditionally remember that.
In the end if you do the right thing, it will all turn out ok. You will survive, and perhaps be stronger than you were before. Eventually you will be able to forgive those who trespassed against you, as God forgives your trespasses. When you can forgive, you will be free. Free of hate, free of pain. It takes time and work.
A year has come and gone. I have emerged from a very bad situation. I have had successes and failures. I have experienced denial, anger, bargaining, and depression. Not necessarily in linear succession, but often in random rotation. I am currently working toward acceptance. Only time will tell. I have learned that I am my own worst enemy, and also that I am in control of my own destiny. The final outcome of all this is fate I suppose.
So love your spouse. Laugh with your kids. Pet your dog. Hold on to those things that are dear to you. Time is fleeting don’t waste it. Slough off the old and build anew. Be patient and don’t get discouraged. Maybe SETI will find something on KIC 8462852 after all. Who knows?